Household Cracks? Maybe this is the reason

Household Cracks? Maybe this is the reason

Every married couple does not want to have a crack in their household. However, man, with his lust and greed, often can not control his lust and can not be a servant who can accept things for what they are. Satan and his troops always try to deceive people in various ways until humankind becomes a group of hellish residents with them, so that the rift of husband-wife relationship is essentially sourced from the temptation of the devil. That is why, thalaq, though the law is muted, hated by Allah SWT, as the Prophet said:

أبغض الحلال عند الله الطلاق رواه أبو داود

"The most hated work of halal in the sight of Allah is thalaq." - HR Abu Daud.

Divorce often leads to breakup of relationships, misery of children, and so on. The causes, in general, due to non-compliance or violation of religious orders. We really need to know the causes, so that we can stay away from them, so that our household becomes a sakinah and mawaddah household.

The causes are as follows:

1

The ignorance of married couples concerning marriage law

Every Muslim is demanded by his religion to study the science that deals with what he will do. For example, someone who wants to get married should learn about marriage law, starting from the legal requirements of marriage, rights and duties of husband and wife. It was done before marriage, so the marriage was based on science. It is the science that will guide couples to live in mutual respect, exercise their rights, and provide solutions to the problems at hand.

If the household is not based on the science of religion, each party will do as they please and indulge their lusts. This is what ultimately results in rifts, strife, and divorce. Therefore Rasulullah SAW said:

طلب العلم فريضة على كل مسلم ومسلمة "رواه مسلم

"Learning the science of religion is obligatory upon every Muslim and muslimat." - Muslim HR.

2

Releasing the view on the haram

Indeed, allowing free eye sight to roam and look at the unlawful is one of the main reasons for the sordidity of the household. Not a few husbands divorce his wife begins because he is watching the woman who should not be looked at. He was interested in the woman, then indifferent to his own wife, and eventually there was a divorce. Vice versa. How many women are running away from her husband with another man and it starts because he sees the haram.

Therefore, in the Qur'an, Allah (SWT) commands us to withhold such haram which means:

"Say to the believing men, 'Let them hold their eyes, and keep their cock. That is more holy to them, Allah is well acquainted with what they do. 'Say to believing women,' Let them hold their eyes, and keep their cocks, and let them not show their jewelry, save that (is) seen from it '. "- QS An-Nur: 30-31.

So also as what has been said of the Prophet:

أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه عن النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم قال: "كتب على ابن آدم نصيبه من الزنا مدرك ذلك لا محالة, العينان زناهما النظر, والأذنان زناهما الاستماع واللسان زناه الكلام واليد زناها البطش, والرجل زناها الخطا والقلب يهوى ويتمنى ويصدق ذلك الفرج أو يكذبه "رواه مسلم

From Abu Hurairah RA, from the Prophet SAW, "It has been written upon every Ban of Adam as part of an act of adultery and he is not impossible to do so. Zina his eyes are with the view, adultery the two ears is by hearing, adultery his tongue is by talking, adultery his hands are to feel, his adultery his feet is by step, while the heart is willing and wishful, then passed on the will by his cock or canceled. - HR Muslim.

Purpose of the hadith, all members of the human body also contribute to the occurrence of adultery. At first a person looked, then interested, acquainted, walking alone, hands were in action, until finally there was actual acts of adultery.

3

Dress in forbidden clothes

Every Muslim woman is required to cover her private parts. The goal, no other, in order to maintain the sanctity of the woman herself. The irony of today is that women do not want their sanctity to be preserved, even as if they "want" to be ruined by their openness, even by opening the private parts of their mahram even by opening around their navels and thighs.

The man who saw would be interested, the woman was tempted, and tempted. Or, not a few who later raped, and this is also the cause of rift husband and wife relationships.

Therefore, if one actually executes the religious shari'ah, he will survive the world and the hereafter.

Nowadays women come out of their homes with clothes that do not cover their nakedness. Some wear clothes you can see, mini skirts, which show off the thighs and navel. But if at home she wore a kitchen dress, which would not appeal to her husband at all. So, do they really dress up with that sexy makeup for whom?

4

Shake hands with the opposite sex

Shaking hands with the opposite sex that is not his wife or mahram is haram. It is not forbidden religion except because there is wisdom behind the ban. Among other things, because it can cause stimulation of lust, open the chances of temptation temptation. Skin contact will surely move the lust rather than limited view.

It is not right to say that it is common to many people, because the important thing is the heart is clean, there is nothing. My brother, who is cleaner than the Messenger of Allah. His heart is the cleanest, noble, glorious heart, there is no speck of stain, but he never once shook hands with a woman who is not his wife and mahram, as he said:

قال رسول الله "إني لا أصافح النساء" رواه أحمد والترمذي والنسائ

"I do not shake hands with women." HR Ahmad, At-Turmudi, An-Nasa'i.

If shaking hands with women may be done, Rasulullah SAW undoubtedly do it when membai'at the female companions, but in fact the Prophet SAW membai'at them with a word only.

5

Wives who are more concerned with careers

Religion does not forbid women to work or careers, but should be done activities that he lived at home or in a closed place that all the workers of women. That also with the requirement that his activity was not to neglect his duty as a wife against her husband and as the mother of her children. Because earning a living is the obligation of a husband, not a wife.

A wife has her own duties, such as taking care of her children, preparing food and welcoming and eliminating the fatigue of her husband when he returns home. Can it be done if he also works, is late to go home, or is already late when he arrives home. Then the factor of fatigue, fatigue, plus if there is a problem in the office, all of which will be the cause of the trigger quarrels, disputes, which ultimately lead to divorce.

Moreover, when at work he was secretary, who was alone with her boss, or mixed between men and women, which eventually will lead to the affinity between them, each vent, entirely mixed-dovey, until finally an affair. If there is a man alone with a woman who is not his wife or muhrim, it is an opportunity for the devil to seduce him, as mentioned in a hadith:

عن عمر بن خطاب رضي الله عنهقال "لا يخلون رجل بامرأة فإن الشيطان ثالثهما" رواه الترمذي

From the friend of Umar bin Al-Khaththab RA, he said, "Not aloof a man and woman unless the devil will be his third." - HR At-Tirmidhi.

6

Communication with the opposite sex exceeds the limit

Married couples, when it is officially married, are required to care for each other and be careful in communicating with the opposite sex, for the sake of the integrity of the household. Differentiate in being single and married. Perhaps before me¬nikah he has a relative or close friend who he used to share stories, jokes, or even go out together (that is all it was actually banned religion), and if done after marriage will be more dangerous. If the habit remains to be done, although for reasons still at reasonable limits, it will certainly cause suspicion and prejudice is not good on their partner. It can also plunge the spouse into the abyss of divorce.

7

Negative effects of public media

The world community today can not escape from the realm of globalization. The spread of media, both print and electronic, is in every inch of modern human life.

But the media is just a tool. It can be something positive for mankind, but it can also be a negative thing. Many have exposure and appeal of the competent parties, including scholars, related to the adverse effects of media in the midst of human cravings. The negative impact is even considered very powerful. In this context, each of us should be extra careful in addressing the adverse effects presented by the media around us.

As an example of recent television shows that many do not educate, even misleading and alienate Muslims from their religion. Starting from the news, sinetron-sinetronnya, as well as his films. Similarly, live shows, both concerts, dangdutas, mixing men and women together with shameless behaviors, and so on.

In our opinion, it is not entertainment, but rather as a highly poisonous toxins that are served by the enemies of Islam who wish to destroy the Aqeedah of the Muslims and blinded them to be moral and Islamic culture.

The influence of such television shows unwittingly enters their brains, teaches freedom of association with the opposite sex, accustoms to the depraved behavior of morality. They also imitate scenes which in their view is the real life, so they see it as common, commonplace, ordinary. In turn, not a few wives are disobedient or rebellious to her husband, because his brain is already crammed with "habits" that he sees daily from television. It has become human nature: learning and imitating from what is seen and witnessed.

Coupled with the proliferation of social networks such as facebook, twitter, etc., to frequently heard the news that there was little household of the Muslims crack braided marriage for their relationships beyond the boundaries through social networking sites such.

Hopefully all of us, especially the readers of the website, get harmonious always with their respective spouses and will not be separated forever in the world until the hereafter. Amin ya rabbal alamin ...

(Al Habib Seggaf Baharun.)