ADAB (MANNERS) WHEN DISCUSSED

Discuss

In any case related to everyday activities, Islam observes it by deciding its courtesy in it and there is something related to it including the following discussion:

1. Think first what to say. That is the nature of a believer, making his mind in front of his tongue. It means something that will be pronounced thought first whether including the useful or not, can hurt others or not, and contain sin or not.

2. Not speaking except good or containing elements of reward, not vice versa that contains elements of sin. As we are forbidden to speak with the element of sin such as ghibah, namimah, demeaning others, mocking and so forth, so too haram law hear it.

3. Speak softly and politely.

4. Trying to listen well to what the friend of her discussion said.

5. Do not cut off his friend's discussion before he finishes his speech.

6. It does not reveal that what the friend of his discussion has said, because it will make him feel less appreciated. And if there is someone who tells us a story or a greeting of others but not as he says, we should not refute by saying, "It is not what you say." However, "Maybe that's what's like this or Like that. "Unlike if such speech is related to the law of religion, then we must deny it but must be in a good way if he is not shy in front of people or feel bad to us.

7. Not speaking except with a benefit and avoiding any meaningless utterances.

8. Not swearing in his words unless very dhorurot and necessary.

9. Avoid lying utterances because of the lies of contradiction with the faith. In other words a believer does not lie, but the lie is just a sign of a hypocrite.

10. Not berghibah in his words, that is mentioning about someone else something that if he heard it he will be angry at him, either in the form of deeds, speech, or a behavior.

11. Not much joke in his words.

12. Avoid obscene or inappropriate words to be expressed.

13. Avoiding disgraceful remarks.

14. Hurry back to the truth if she feels wrong. And that is not to lose, but it is a glory.

15. If we speak in a certain way, then we should focus on it and not turn away from it until we have finished the previous one.

16. Avoid all kinds of debates in discussions, let alone not seek the truth within the debate.

17. Do not raise a voice without being needed, because that will cause inconvenience to those who hear it.

The conclusion is that we do not say anything that is useful to us and contains elements of reward and abandon everything that contains the element of sin in our speech.

That is based on the following hadith of the Prophet:

عن أم حبيبة رضي الله عنها قالت: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: كل كلام ابن آدم عليه لا له, إلا أمر بمعروف, أو نهي عن منكر, أو ذكر الله. (رواه الترمذي

All human speech has become a burden on it unless it is amar ma'ruf and nahi munkar or in the form of dhikr to Allah SWT. (H.R. Turmudzi)

عن أبي هريرة رضي الله عنه عليه وسلم قال: من كان يؤمن بالله واليوم الآخر, فليقل خيرا أو ليصمت. (متفق عليه)

Whoever believes with Allah SWT and the Last Day, then should he say goodness or silence. (Muttafaq alaih)

عن أنس بن مالك رضي الله عنه قال: قال رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم: رحم الله امرءا تكلم فغنم, أو سكت فسلم. (رواه البيهقي

May Allah SWT bless someone if he says goodness then he is lucky for it, or he is silent because something he will pronounce is a vice then he will be saved by it. (H.R. Baihaqi)